Why does everyone hate turning 30?

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I am about two months shy of turning thirty, and most of my past classmates are too. More than a handful of people that I’ve spoken too has a negative view on turning thirty and it’s been really interesting to hear.

Of course, we as humans tend to set milestones for ourselves and thirty is that number where you’re officially an adult…nope not eighteen or twenty like we initially thought. Thirty marks a certain point in our lives where we enter new chapters and we do change a lot even though it doesn’t seem like it. I for one, have gotten a little better with skin care and the kind of food I eat. We tend to want to put more nutritional things into our bodies as well as practice a healthier lifestyle. Why? Because our body simply doesn’t work the way it used to. We can’t pull all-nighters then show up to work fine the next day.

Coffee also becomes your best friend, unless you’re completely anti-coffee then drink tea…lots of it. 🙂

Before I go off on a tangent let’s examine the reasons why people see turning thirty in a negative light.

Uncompleted goals. The goals we had realistically set for ourselves at twenty seem far-fetched and unrealistic. None of them ever came into fruition. We thought we’d have everything all figured out by twenty-five but five years later, we’re still hanging by a thread or even wanting to start new life goals.(like myself)

Sometimes self-realization comes at a later time in life than everyone else. It’s not something you should beat yourself up about. Til there is life…there is hope.

Fear of aging. Young people think you’re ancient and that you were never into cool music and fashion. Your time to shine has expired. This can sometimes weigh on your own impression of yourself. Your teens and twenties was a fun ride, and turning thirty seems to make you feel like it’s coming to an end. Thin of it as beginning another chapter. 🙂

Looks and Interior. Like I was saying above, we can’t survive on soda and burgers anymore and those lines of aging near our eyes are really coming to life at this point. Not everyone wrinkles at thirty, some people age like fine wine. Me however, I look like a tired train wreck all of the time, but it’s not something a little make up can’t cover up…*cough cough* I mean’t diet and exercise. Your body really changes. Yes it does. I get acid reflux all of the time that I only feel safe eating granola(true story). We know that somewhere between thirty and forty we’ll start looking a little older than we did in our twenties and for some reason it scares the crap out of us.

I think what it comes down to is a mixture of fear and disappointment of not having achieved everything we wanted to achieve at this point and entering a brand new decade with all of that baggage. The fear of uncertainty perhaps.

Turning thirty doesn’t bother me as much and it shouldn’t bother you. Stay true to yourself and keep focusing on those goals. Just think about it, we’ve had three decades of ups and downs, lousy teenage years or great ones…we’ve dealt with acne scars, heart breaks and we’ve made some of the best memories we’d ever have. Embrace yourselves get ready for your brand new decade….

xo Coffee Doll

 

 

Turning 29 and Preschool

In the last few years, I have not made a big deal out of my own birthday. I think after having kids, I’ve focused all of my celebration energies on them. Some of my relatives and peers still make a big deal about their birthdays but for me, I calculate my life based on milestones now and not years. And I’ve hit quite a few surprising ones in the last decade. 

So this is it for the twenties, the last year that I’ll be able to say I’m in my twenties. Does it bother me much? Not really and a little. I think everyone in my age group reflects on their lives as they get older because we’re at an age where we’re still trying to add to our accomplishments, we haven’t really reached the stars as yet. So it’s good to reflect and put things into perspective as to where we’d like to see ourselves in the future.


It’s funny how at this age I still feel determined and ambitious, always dreaming, never giving up hope and kids just think thirty is super old. I often think that I haven’t accomplished much in the last decade but as I reflect on it, I didn’t do so bad. Sure there are things that I have put on hold to focus building my family but life isn’t really over until it’s over, right?

I don’t want to be super depressing in this post so I’ll just focus on a few good life changing moments that occurred in the last decade.

I’m now a mommy of two, something i didn’t think I’d ever be. I honestly did not think by thirty, I’d be happily married with two children. Yikes. I’ve also changed my country of residence, released an eBook which is probably one of my biggest dreams currently. So many life changing events occurred and I have also changed as a person. My anger and disappointment is now under control. I am super chilled and accepting of all stupidity for I choose to filter it out and focus on positivity. 

My oldest child is starting preschool in less than two months. That’s just insane. She can draw and trace letters and do all of that fun stuff. It’s just crazy how they’re so little and needy one minute and the next their creativity has gone through the roof. It’s pretty exciting minus the messy house and loud noises.

Let me know how you feel about approaching the big 3-0.

xo Kat