Award: The Unique Blogger Award

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Hi Bookish Friends!

I have been nominated for The Unique Blogger Award by the awesome beachbookworm. My apologies for getting to this so late. Thank you for considering me for this. Go check out beachbookworm’s blog if you haven’t already.

The Rules:
1. Display the award!
2. Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.
3. Answer the questions they’ve written for you!
4. Nominate 8-13 bloggers and give them three questions in the spirit of sharing love and solidarity within our blogging family!

Beachbookworm’s questions:
1. When someone asks for just 1 book recommendation, what do you tell them?

Before anything, I ask the genre they’re looking for because sometimes a great book can disappoint when it’s not what a person is looking for. I recommend The Book Thief by Markus Zusak a lot because it has all of the feels, and I just love the way its told from Death’s point-of-view.

2. If you were to write about a different topic for your blog, what would it be?

When I first started blogging, I had the intention of covering more health based topics revolving around diabetes as I’m diabetic myself. I also wanted to talk about my struggles with depression and anxiety in hopes that it can help at least one person. Although my blogging is more reading and writing now, I still like to drop those inspirational posts from time to time.

3. What new book release, this year, has been the biggest disappointment?

Ah that’s a hard one. Hehe. This year I’ve been reading more indie authors than traditionally published. Unfortunately, I have to refrain from saying which and what was a disappointment as it might be taken wrongly. I will say this however…sometimes the tease of the book and its cover is better than the actual story.

I nominate:

My book blogger friend Diary of a Bookfiend

I know I’m supposed to nominate more people but I’m not sure who else has been nominated for this award yet. If you haven’t, please consider yourself nominated and here are my three questions for you.

  1. What genre do you not read and why?
  2. Which fictional world would you like to live in?
  3. How did blogging about books start for you?

Love & Madness by Leah Parker| Book Review

Title: Love & Madness

Author: Leah Parker

Genre: Contemporary Romance, Women’s Fiction

Synopsis:

After a one night stand with Ty, Luna finds herself pregnant. On the up side, Ty wants to raise this baby with Luna to make it work, but they’re both basically strangers. They both make an effort until their individual struggles get in the way.

My thoughts:

Let me begin by saying this is not a happily ever after read. And i’ll follow that and say I still recommend this book because the journey of it is worth reading. Luna and Ty’s story touch on a number of issues such as depression, substance abuse and toxic relationships. What I really liked is that the author didn’t tell her audience that Luna suffers from depression over and over. She showed that. It was realistically done and very relatable. Sadness is not depression. Depression hits even when everything seems okay and everyone around you loves you and supports you.

Ty has a past with alcoholism, and that too is a greyed area. It’s a misconception to think alcoholism is a choice. There are issues deeply rooted in Ty’s past that leads him to this.

Overall, I’d say this book touched on heavy subjects that’ll give the reader an intimate insight of mental health. Romance, love, family, humor are all part of the package if you decide to pick this up. Rated four stars!

Happy Reading

Xo Kat

Is Third Person POV Dead?|Writing Fiction

Just like anything, I’ve come to realize that writing books is a business in itself. At the end of the day we all want to be our authentic selves in hopes that at least one person will receive it positively but it’s also true that we write for an audience. Particularly in the romantic genres, in the last few years I’ve been seeing a lot of first person present tense POVs. I read it but it doesn’t always read well to me, because that’s my preference. Everybody has their own tastes even when it comes to reading.

I’ve asked the question first person vs third person in a couple of writing groups and the group with majorly romance writers and readers favored first person. Recently I read on a blog that reading in first person helps the reader connect to a character better as it reads like you’re inside of the person’s head. The blog also went on to say that when something reads like a chick diary it’s more relatable. While that may be true, authors who write in third person are still successful in publishing. Some of which I enjoy quite a bit, like Nora Roberts, Susan Mallory.

It’s mostly on the indie scene I see first person being more preferable and that’s scary for someone like me who is choosing to go the self-publishing route. I have written in first person, I’ve switched entire books in first person but I’ll tell you where it goes wrong for me.

I spend a few sentences throughout my story noticing things that my characters may not necessarily notice. For instance, my MC who is a guy may not care what the color of a curtain is or the set up of a bedroom. There’s also the self-description thing that makes me cringe. Personally, I find it hard to describe myself or brag about myself and again, not all of my characters care what they look like but I do want my readers to have a feature or two in mind. And I find that reflection thing that I see ever so often in other books is not really my thing.

My writing voice is also not my character’s voice. I enjoy using different words to describe and elaborate on things and I can assure you my main character may not always share that vocabulary. So it’s hard for me to articulate the story that I want in my main character’s voice. I don’t head hop because it’s confusing to readers and even me as a writer. I do focus on one character at a time but just in third person POV. It’s called third person limited whereas the other is called third person omniscient. This I will cover in another blog post so stay tuned for that one.

Lastly, I have been writing in third person POV as early as the age of seven. In school, I had tons and tons of essays to write and I even started writing my own stories so I had time and practice with writing in third person. It’s why it comes more naturally to me as a narrator.

What POV do you prefer and what are the challenges you face? Why is one or the other easier for you?

As always thanks for stopping by. Here’s the link for my newly created Facebook Page if you want to keep up with me there. https://www.facebook.com/Bookish-Kat-582027968799821/ I always love discussing bookish things with bookish people! Find me on Instagram @bookishkat7

xo Kat

 

 

Connect with my blog on Facebook!

Hi Bookish Folks,

I’m honestly overwhelmed by all the social media-ing it takes to promote oneself as a writer. Personally, I’m not much of a sharer other than funny or animal videos but I decided to finally undertake creating a Facebook page for my blog, Bookish Kat.

My main reason for doing this is to share older posts for readers without posting the same blog post multiple times on here. This page is also to reach readers on Instagram and Facebook who don’t have a WordPress account. FYI, you can subscribe to my blog by entering your email address as well 🙂

Here’s the link to my freshly created page https://www.facebook.com/Bookish-Kat-582027968799821/

You can also see what I’m up to on Instagram and Twitter @bookishkat7

Stay tuned for my post on Third Person POV in writing.

Thanks for stopping by! xo Kat

 

One Year WordPress Anniversary!

Wow, I can’t believe it’s a year already. I had been blogging on other platforms before but it’s been a year since I started using wordpress and working on better content. My blog has taken a different turn since I initially started it. To sum it up, I think I’m a mix between book blogger & and writing tip giver with a touch of parenting.

I just wanted to say thank you for stopping by my blog from time to time and a big HELLO to all of my new subscribers. On a sidenote, I suck at uploading content on my blog but I have good reason. I retreat to my writing corner for days while ignoring the internet.

I’d love to hear what motivates you to blog or what got you started in the first place.

xo Kat

How Has Bullying Impacted Your Life?

It would appear that I’ve taken a hiatus from blogging but I haven’t. Whenever life gets busy, my blog suffers. So, I saw this video with a young kid practically breaking down about how he’s being bullied at school. Firstly, I applaud him for speaking out. Secondly, bullying is a topic I’m deeply passionate about although I don’t always speak of my own personal struggles with it. Well, the video inspired me to share how bullying impacted my life in the last decade and a half.

I don’t think I was ever a strong person, my emotions were out of control. I allowed myself to feel deeply, and let things stab at my soul. It goes all the way back to my childhood where I really wasn’t exposed or taught to handle meanness. Then high school happened. High school happened to a lot of us, right? I didn’t know how to deal with bullying, I didn’t even understand bullying. I felt ashamed of myself that people were saying and thinking such horrific things about me. And back then, it was harder to voice an opinion about what I was dealing with. High school, all the way up until my early twenties was a downward spiral. It was like ripping my nails off trying to claw out of an angry vortex.

If you’ve ever been bullied, how have you coped with it? It was terrible before I learned how to properly deal with it. As I mentioned, I was ashamed of myself. It impacted me in such a way, I felt that I shouldn’t live, I shouldn’t exist. There was a point in my life where I wanted it to be over. I couldn’t foresee a contented future, a happy one. I began to think I didn’t deserve someone’s kindness or appreciation. Bullying impacted me so negatively, it consumed my life. Believe it or not, I started to bully myself. I started to believe I wasn’t smart enough to accomplish anything, I wasn’t good enough to be seen in public. It was painful for me to leave my house, let people see my face. I felt hideous, I felt wrong.

Bullying left a stain on me, and I could never stand up for myself, or even be myself. I found myself adopting fake personalities to be better accepted. At thirty years old, I’m now in a place where I appreciate my own differences, flaws, creativity. I’ve learned to keep away from drama and negative people. I’m an introvert as you’ll probably see from reading my blog, and I love that. I’m comfortable, contented. But it wasn’t an easy task climbing out of the darkness. I won’t lie, it’s still present some days, but I think maturity and responsibility has taught me a different perspective.

As always, thanks for reading. Have a great week ahead.

xo Kat

A Day in the Life of a Freelance Writer

Currently I’ve developed a schedule that I roughly follow daily, and it appears to be helping.  It’s also a great addition that my kids are getting older and can keep themselves busy for longer periods of time. I assume this gets better with time. It’s still on a day to day basis with me, how much they’ll let me sit and work. I consider myself a part-time freelance copywriter because I take on very minimal work right now. It won’t work for me to take on a lot of jobs and get overwhelmed with everything else going on in my life.

The income is not sufficient at all, but as a newbie to copywriting, whatever little I take exposes me to client relationships, writing experience and just general knowledge of the field. It’s been a hot minute since I’ve done actual work. I say actual work because I blog, and I write fiction but I don’t make a dime off it.

Anyways, without further ado, here’s how I work from home.

On a school day it’s easier for me because I have one toddler at home. It’s easier to manage one and there’s less screaming and fights when they’re separated. You parents know what I’m talking about. So after we do the morning basics, and drop off my firstborn to school, me and the other one comes back home. I finish my cold cup of coffee, reheated of course, and feed my young then she pretty much gets occupied with activities, blocks, crafts, toys. etc. I usually get up from my work spot like every ten minutes to hand out more food or tend to needs. So it’s not all pretty perfect once I turn on my computer.

I’ll usually be back and forth from working to toddler, from about 9am to 1pm, then I’ll have another cup of coffee and engage with my toddler some more until it’s time to pick up the older one. After firstborn comes home all hell breaks lose and I pretty much lose my sh*t and can’t function. Just kidding. I do mom things for hours until the sun has set, then it’s time to do more mom things.

As for work, if a client really needs something done quickly, I’ll make the time in the afternoon. I basically work from my kitchen table because the height of the table is comfortable for me to sit and type for long hours. And also, because my little office space is too close to where the kids make their noises. So it’s a little bit easier at the kitchen table.

That’s basically it. How I work from home. I can’t pull all-nighters like I previously did. At thirty, I need to function on a set schedule because there’s so much more to do than I’m actually telling you. I need to read else I’ll go mad, and I need to jot things down for the multiple stories I’m working on. Our weekends change depending on what we have going on so this is just a little look into my weekday.

I get notifications around the clock from other bloggers. What do you guys do and when do you write? Do you write posts and schedule them or just whenever you get a chance? Let me know your blogging process in the schedule.

xo Kat

How to Write A Book Review

While most book bloggers and book reviewers out there write awesome and informative reviews, I’ve seen multiple discussions about how book reviews are done. In one of my writer groups, I’ve seen authors say they won’t read reviews because they put them off or make them feel a certain way. While I respect authors’ decisions not to read harsh reviews, I’ve also come across books being reviewed in a non-reviewing way.

Often, we don’t like stories or characters and feel it necessary to review how we think the book should end or what a character should’ve done. The majority of people looking at reviews are readers just like yourselves, hence, the review should be catered to that audience. I’d also like to note that there is nothing wrong with leaving negative reviews, but it shouldn’t be attacking in nature.

Here’s a few tips on how to cover a book review so that readers can get the best from it.

  1. Make sure you give it a star rating. You can give any book between one star and five stars. This is the first kind of review that readers are looking for. Not everyone actually reads an entire review.
  2. If you’re reviewing on your blog, make sure to include the title, author and genre of the book. Not everyone enjoys the same genre of books. Inserting this will help your review reach it’s relevant audience.
  3. If you’re reviewing on Amazon.com or Goodreads, a captivating title sounds more appropriate rather than “Okay” or “Good”.
  4. Write a brief spoiler free synopsis of the book, leaving out the climax. Your synopsis should end with something that leaves the reader wanting more. If you must leave a spoiler, Goodreads has a built in tool that allows reviewers to check. However, try to refrain from doing this on your blog without warning your reader.
  5. After you write the synopsis, then write your review, why you loved the book, why you hated it, how it made you feel, what it reminded you of etc.

As always thanks for checking out my post. If you have any more tips for book reviewers, I’d love to hear it. Happy Weekend!

xo Kat

New Blog Look!

If you’ve been reading my blog previously, you’re wondering who is Bookish Kat. I changed my blog name from Coffee Doll Chronicles to Bookish Kat. I wanted something simplistic that also incorporates my name so after much thought and consideration, I think it’s safe to say I’m sticking with Bookish Kat. I’ll still be writing about personal growth and covering topics on parenting and inspiration; it won’t all be about books and writing. As you’ll see, I also changed my tagline to “the pen is mightier than the sword.” Visit my previous post where I discuss my reasons for doing so.

I also made some minute changes to my blog such as adding goodreads & instagram widgets so you can follow and chat with me on there as well. As always, thanks for reading.

xo Kat

The Pen is Mightier Than The Sword

“The pen is mightier than the sword” is an expression coined by English author, Edward Bulwer-Lytton. It’s main idea is the indication that communication is better than violence.

This is a sentence or phrase that resonates deep with me, in my own personal way. I’m not a violent person who turned writer overnight (haha). Writing has helped me overcome many fears and insecurities. It opened up doors of happiness that I didn’t know existed. Writing served as a form of therapy even when I weren’t old enough to understand all of the pain, rejection and loneliness that came with being a young adult. I wrote books of poetry during that period and I’ve since learned that writing is the only way I can truly communicate my emotions as well as put everything into perspective.

Before deciding to take on being an author, I wrote pages and pages of deep feelings completely unaware of what my ability to write was doing for me in a positive way. And, for that, one of the truest statements is that the pen really is mightier than the sword. I could’ve handled things differently in my life but I always turned to my pen. Now I’m thirty years old and holding a pen is my strength.

xo Kat