She said “fat” to my kid! :O

Something I’ve struggled with since childhood was people constantly making weight comments in a deregatory way. My weight has fluctuated all during my childhood and until now but I’ve never been to the point where it’s an unhealthy weight gain, just a little chub. Because of the mean comments I’d gotten at an age too early, I made it a thing not to use the word “fat” in a joking way in front of my kids. People struggling with weights issues is not a funny thing at all. We’re not inside people’s heads to know where they’re at in their lives and personally, I don’t think making fun of people’s appearance or intellect is a good thing to do. It’s just not my thing and I’d like to raise my kids with that mindset also. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way and we have no right to comment or bully another person of their shortcomings. 

To elaborate on the heading of my post, I have to share a small story that happened recently. My daughter is almost five by the way and I’ve never heard her say the word “fat” or comment on someone’s size. Her uncle or dad bought her a Hershey’s chocolate bar and that day we had a relative over. My daughter isn’t an irresponsible candy eater so she broke one block of chocolate and stored the rest in the fridge to be consumed over a weekly period, also to be shared with her younger sister. In my opinion that’s not so unreasonable, was it? Well, my relative proceeded to tell my daughter that chocolate will make her fat and that she shouldn’t eat it. While I do get concerns about monitoring what kids consume, many parents give their kids a little chocolate occasionally and they don’t do it in a way that’s harmful for them. If I’m doing something unknowingly as a parent, I would appreciate any good advice I can get so I’m not mad she said that to my kid but I am concerned about bullying my kids for something she eats when it’s not harmful to her.

Well, my daughter doesn’t even know what “fat” means so she resumed doing whatever it was that she was doing. She’s slender by the way so I don’t know why a grown person would want to make such a young child aware of body shaming. My husband and I, her parents, do a pretty good job of balancing healthy nutritional meals with treats in between. 

What makes this topic sensitive for me  was bullying. I hid my head in my lunch bag to eat at school, I was terrified of eating in public. I’ve starved myself, thrown up food after meals and it took me almost all of my life to combat the bullying and taunts from people around me. I’ve seen girls of all shapes and sizes being bullied by people who are just hateful And while it may never fully end, the best thing we could do for our children is to educate them on how to deal with bullies as well as how not to be a bully.

As always thanks for reading. Drop me a line in the comments, I’d like to hear your thoughts.

Xo Kat